Stigma/my diagnosis

The stigma that mental health illnesses carry are like dead weights. 

I can only write about things I have experienced myself, things I have heard people say or stuff I've read about. From my experience one of disorders that carries one of the heaviest and most detrimental stigmas is personality disorder. 

The name 'personality disorder' covers a range from avoidant to schizoid to narcissistic to emotionally unstable or borderline. 

Perhaps the most commonly heard of personality disorder is emotionally unstable/borderline. 

Borderline is the name given in DSM-IV and unemotionally unstable in ICD-10, but the criteria for borderline and emotionally unstable are almost identical. 

DSM-IV and ICD-10 both list the features of this disorder, and a person does not have to meet every single feature to be given the diagnosis. 

EUPD, unfortunately, holds a stigma with it that people with this disorder are manipulative, attention seeking and 'badly behaved'. That when/if they self harm or attempt suicide it's always only for attention. They purposely cause arguments and often make false allegations, they can't be trusted and a common phrase I hear about patients with EUPD is that they 'love being in hospital'. 

In actual fact, EUPD means the person has problems regulating their emotions, often leading to self harm. They may have unpredictable mood swings and/or not know why they feel certain ways. They often have identity issues and insecurities, making 

EUPD very common in people with eating disorders. 

But, it seems some healthcare professionals do not deem personality disorder as a 'real' mental illness, and do not view it in the same way they see bipolar or schizophrenia.

Patients with EUPD can be hugely challenging, as can patients with any other illness, but is this a reason to tarnish the name of personality disorder so new patients are almost written off before even being met, simply because of their diagnosis.

My official diagnosis is an atypical eating disorder, co-morbid with depressive disorder and traits of emotionally unstable personality disorder.

I wasn't surprised when I was given this diagnosis and it didn't upset me, but it does make me hope I am not seen as a manipulative or attention seeking patient. Even though it isn't a 'full' EUPD diagnosis, people are still quick to stigmatise. I knew I would be told I had EUPD traits due to my self harm, suicidal ideation and identity issues. 

Luckily, I knew myself for twenty five years before this diagnosis and I know I am not what any stereotype says. However, some people are not as fortunate as me and they get almost consumed by the stigma of disorders. 

Surely the best way to erase stigma is to remember that every illness is a valid illness and to try and see past the difficulties that mental disorders presents.